I am very fascinated about how we are chemically attracted to one another and why…ans as my previous post about chemical/ hormone types this a nice way to try to scientifically explain love and attracting.
Love maps can be found anywhere and is all shapes , forms and fashion, they give you a very specific idea and guide line to what triggers the right hormones and neurotransmitters for love and relationships. You already might be familiar with the very tangible fact that different circuits in the brain are lit up while experiencing passionate love, maternal love or unconditional love. So different areas of your brain release chemicals that prompt greater euphoric sensations such as attraction and your blood pressure rises, your cheeks color and you feel a warm fuzzy feeling inside. That all has a chemical explanation.
A brain in love follows a very specific path:
You might call that stage: Lust – the beginning when your brain is attracted to someone for these reasons:
1. Sight: we are attracted to people who look like you parents and even yourself. So sex hormones testosterone and oestrogen are realized in the brain.
2. Smell: Pheromones, the conscious smells that fly below the radar, make you feel lustful, without an acknowledged reason.
3. Sound: The words of parents, teachers, and peers you admired triggers a familiar reaction in the brain that makes you feel safe and attracted. It might sound Oedipus complex but that is how your brain works.
4. Taste: Our real appetite and our sexual appetite are related in more ways than one. Freudian oral fixations abound.
5. Touch: We develop a craving for intimacy that is based in part on how you were touched and cuddled as children by your parents.
The next stage is Attraction– this is when you are truly falling in love and can think of nothing else but your object of attraction – okay..person…:
1. Adrenaline – The initial stages of falling for someone activates your stress response, increasing your blood levels of adrenalin and cortisol. This is when you start to sweat, your heart races and your mouth goes dry in presence of you loved one.
2. Dopamine. This chemical stimulates ‘desire and reward’ by triggering an intense rush of pleasure. It has been compared to takinf cocaine.
3. Serotonin. And finally, serotonin. Love’s most important chemical which affects your mood and that’s why you loved one keeps coming to your thoughts.
The last stage is Attachment- this is when you cannot leave without your loved one and he/she is the reason why you want to live and have children…marry..etc:
1. Oxytocin – The cuddle hormone. It deepens the feelings of attachment and makes couples feel much closer to one another after they have had sex and is also the hormone responsible for the bond between mum and baby and is released during childbirth and is released also during breast feeding, reducing stress in response to the support and comfort offered by relationship partners. Oxytocin also increases trust in human beings.
2. Vasopressin – Another important hormone in the long-term commitment stage and is released after sex. It has a potential role in long-term relationships. It facilitates and coordinates reward circuits during partner preference formation, critical for pair bond formation.
Here is a very interesting interactive graph about it : http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/11/23/this-is-your-brain-on-love_n_1109331.html
So we are a chemical product of what our brain says we need and want in a partner on very deeper level than looks…money…social status…etc…
Of course because the brain is extremely active in the love process, it is also active and alert in the loss of love.
When you break up the symptoms are similar to those of withdrawal. You brain will release the chemicals responsible for
- Tightness in the chess
- Difficulty breathing
But that is another story and let’s keep focused on the positive chemical reaction that you experience during LOVE…
So I go back to Dr. Fischer and her brilliant chemistry behind chemistry relationship spectrum that we are indeed chemically attracted to one another and our brain in the one choosing more than the muscle that pumps blood that we call HEART…
Would it better to say in love: follow you neurotransmitters instead that your heart??!!!
I leave to you the choice and conclusion since we are what we are and we do what we do…but keep in mind that your brain is one step ahead of everything else…